Hiring a caregiver to help at home is oftentimes an idea that takes seniors time to fully accept. This is a big change for them and they see it as a disruption in the daily routine. So, it’s important to properly prepare your parent to the idea of receiving help outside the family unit.
We’ve put together a list that gives family members tips on how to prepare a parent or relative to accept home care help:
- Introduce the caregiver gradually. Meet in a public place first, at a coffee shop, for lunch, or in a park. Go to a place that’s fun and keep the meeting light. It helps the relative to become acquainted and trust the person before the caregiver is hired.
- Direct the conversation to you, not them – When talking to a parent about home care; voice your feelings of being overcome with responsibilities and feelings of guilt. Tell your parent how you wish to be there more for them but cannot be, then explain that it makes you feel comfortable knowing a home care solution is in place.
- Speak with your parent’s physician or a geriatric care manager. Ask the doctor if she’s willing to talk with your parent. A geriatric care manager, a licensed professional with special expertise, is another resource to help you get buy-in from a parent for better care.
Having the talk and convincing your aging parent to accept in-home care is never easy. It is a challenging and difficult transition from being the child to being your parents’ guardian. Realize that your parent is not stubborn; s/he is frightened of losing independence. Being patient and understanding during home care discussions will go a long way in gaining her/his acceptance of the idea.
For a free in home care assessment, please call CalaCare at 1-888-774-CALA (2252).